I’m so glad this infographic exists.
the most important infographic
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Yesterday I had to cut out a family member for being a homophobe, and today I had to lecture my aunty on fat shaming… man, I am having no luck at all this week.
Some context, all the women in my family are plus size - and hate themselves. Growing up, my grandma’s version of a compliment was to say ‘You know, you’d be so beautiful if you just lost that tummy!’. Her six daughters all suffered, and so have suffered their daughters and their daughters and etc etc. It should be known, that my grandma was just repeating what her own mother told her - so I don’t blame the individual women in my family, I blame the society that allows women to think these things about themselves, unchallenged. I posted a status about how I ate some ice cream, even though it tasted bad. My aunt suggested I had a food addiction. I said no, it was anxiety related - and could have just as easily ended up in chain smoking for repetitively tapping, or etc. Instead of being like ‘oh! Okay, anxiety!’ my aunt decided that she needed to INSIST that I MUST have a food addiction. Over. And Over. I love my aunty, she’s an amazing woman who has done SO MUCH for me - but as someone that had to fight REALLY HARD to accept myself for who I am at the size I am, I had had enough. So, I said this:
Aunty Mar. I saw a therapist for seven years. I know exactly what my issues are. I have an anxiety disorder, I need to be constantly doing something. If I run out of things, sometimes I eat food. It’s not a big deal, my health is fine. I understand that because I am overweight, you need to believe that there is something wrong with me that needs to be fixed - but there really isn’t. MY relationship with food is totally normal, my blood pressure and cholesterol are all perfect, there is literally nothing wrong with me. I get all the vitamins and minerals that I need. Yes, I am fat. However unlike most people (and apparently you) - I don’t see a problem with that. My beauty and self-worth isn’t defined by what a fashion magazine thinks is appropriate, and I like myself the way I am. In fact, I get paid to teach body acceptance to other women who spend too much of their lives hating their bodies and nearly killing themselves to loose weight .
In fact, it should be stated that you would have never been so insistent if it were a thin person making this status, it would just be funny and weird and that’s it. I deal with this EVERY TIME I post ANYTHING about food. Suddenly, everyone and their dog thinks that their opinion on what I put in my mouth - is necessary. This does not happen to thin women. Along that vein, there’s lots of things I don’t like doing in public. For instance, I hate going to restaurants - because if I order a regular meal (like anyone else in the place would) someone will make a comment or a judgmental face. If I order a salad to avoid that reaction from others - someone will ask me if I am trying to loose weight. Or they will presume I am doing a bad job of trying to loose weight. In fact, as a plus size woman - EVERYONE assumes that one of my goals, is to loose weight. It is not. It hasn’t been for a long time. In fact,the issues I’ve had with my size in the past were never about MY SIZE, and ALWAYS about how people TREATED ME because of my size. Than I realized - I am not required to change, so that other people will stop being assholes. I should just demand and expect people,to stop being assholes. I am happy the way I am, and I need you to understand and respect that.
There is nothing wrong with me.
Good on you for standing up for yourself. This is very well said and I’d be really surprised if it hurt her feelings.
isn’t there a part of the bible where god gets mad at a fig tree for not having any figs on it and curses the fig tree?
yeah there legit is that’s 100% true